Transitioning again 6/14/11

Repeating cycles can be very tumultuous primarily because you would think that you would have learned the lesson from the first time. However, life has a sure way of putting you back in the same predicament to catch what you missed.

Everything in life will be no cake walk and sometimes the closest things to us can cause the most stress. My suggestion, free yourself...for your sanity! There is nothing like a peace of mind and the comfort of great friends....but be sure to catch the lesson. Some opportunities only present for a certain time period and others forever. Don't let what's meant to be pass you by.

Hurdles and obstacles can create a weird sense of understanding and appreciation.
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Reality Check

So its funny how things reveal themselves. For the past few days I have been having some vivid dreams as if I am having conversations with people about serious matters. It's funny because although I do not try to over analyze dreams....I feel that I may be receiving some form of confirmation to what's going on around me.

The journey of life has its ups and downs.....it has both the good and the bad!!!! Looking back on my journey's I have always felt that the real will always outweigh the unreal......sometimes I wonder if that is a stupid way of thinking....lol! People do not surprise me at all by their actions and words don't mean shit...someone can tell you I love you and I wanna spend the rest of my life with you and in the same breath get down how they live.

Taking inventory, keeping your eyes wide open, and NEVER letting your guard completely down is obvious the safe way to do things because as soon as you release yourself and give your all the people show their true images.....

Life's learning lessons 101......DO NOT TRUST A MOFO!!!!! Lmao!

Defining success

Success is what you make it. It can be the contentment of appreciating what you have. Or you can be a natural go getter and always want more. Either way be grateful. Many people define success of material things such as money, cars, houses, etc.....I'm sure you catch my drift however happiness lies on the inside of you and material things can't define you.

So as we all climb our ladder of reaching a new height ask yourself is it something you need, or something you want? Will it make you feel better or worse to have this thing? And is it worth all cost?

I look at my successes and say wow they maybe small to others but they seem pretty big to me. Share your joys with those that uplift you not defeat you. If the person in your ear continually criticizes you yet has nothing, and is not working on being greater why would you care what they think of your life.....DEFINE you own SUCCESS cause ONLY you can truly appreciate em!!!!

Grief vs. Acceptance

Coming to conclusions can be tough when sometimes heart overrules mind. It is difficult because even when you can realistically point out what you need to do you cant always do it. Talking about these things can be helpful and dangerous. Repetition doesn't always make an individual feel better. When a person is experiencing a "loss" there is a grieving process that must take place  in order for the individual to truly overcome the situation.

Life has a funny way of showing you what you need versus what you want. Patience may be a virtue but the waiting period is hard. No matter how much you cry, pray, talk or criticize yourself you may end up with no solution. At times the mind gets so consumed with finding solutions that you can become overwhelming to others and to self in my opinion. I'm learning that pausing for the cause and letting it do what it do is all that can truly be done.

Giving too much of ourselves when the time isn't right can harm us emotionally and mentally. So when you have done all you can sometimes acceptance is what is necessary. It will help prevent the emotional roller coaster from restarting that you are already on.

Being the person you want to find

Altering yourself should be at your expense not another. So many people have high standards for what they are looking for but can't be that person in return. You can't want a professional upper-class individual and you carry yourself as a bum on all levels. We are attracted to who we are....mirroring yourself is hard isn't it??? So if you keep dealing with scum you may wanna take a look at YOURSELF. Our energy levels draw certain people to us and the saying the saying opposites attract is very real.

As for setting standards, it's okay but be realistic with your standards and live life with minimal to no expectations of others. People will let you down all the time because they are human and flawed. Sometimes when we set these high expectations they can set our relationships up for failure from the start. A relationship should consist of communication, understanding, respect, compromise, appreciation, and loyalty. Everyone will not always be on the same page at the same time however if you they are working toward these things appreciate the efforts. Trust Real Love Never Dies and anything that is intended WILL BE....

If you don't take the time to learn your mate you can truly never love your mate. You will never fulfill each others deeper wants completely because you don't know who you are dealing with. If you have taken the time to learn your mate expect obstacles, work through them and appreciate each lesson learned through them. The outcomes will hopefully strengthen the relationship.

gettin over it

Life is tricky with many curve balls. Relationships come and go and the value of them seem to be fading quickly. It appears that the world is looking for quick fixes all over. The word LOVE seems meaningless and people have no desire for monogamy. Can we change the way society has adapted this twisted thinking. Although, all wounds heal some scars leave permanent impressions. How can we learn to let go and forgive those who have hurt us??? When will we learn to free ourselves from the bondage of pain???

Emotional Bondage 5/31/11

Sometimes we take on more than we can handle. Taking on other people's emotions can be harmful to one's own health. I know because I have been affected by a friends "depression" and another's feelings of "worthlessness". If I could change the world I would wave my magic wand and take away all the troubles of others. But I can't so instead I use my voice.

Today was about spreading positivity to a friend and encouraging her to move on with her life. It was about providing support even when you don't know how. Changing is a big step but it must be taken by every human being at some point in their life. Reaping the benefits of sanity without the daily pressures are a reward however that's not always real life. If you are thrown a curve ball and you miss keep batting. You will eventually perfect your swing.

Staying stuck keeps us sick....and NO ONE can truly enjoy life without living first. So I say let us fight through our emotions and pain. Let us allow those that can help us overcome our burdens to lift us. Let us desire more and become more confident in our ways. For you are worth it, I am worth it, we all are worth it and have purpose!!!!!

in need of....

Conversing with some friends about change, mentorship, and LIFE. Change starts within. No one can tell you how to change or when you are done changing but you have to be open to it!!!! It is in my opinion that we do not have enough African American mentors or role models in the world today. I recall a time when I sought out advice from a teacher of mine and I felt completely played! Is it a fear of surpassing her? Or just unwillingness to share? In all of my life doings I have been determined to give back because some life skills I have gone without. What would you do if a young person sought you out for advice on advancing his/her life!

On a quest

So I decided that I want to inform the world that they are not alone in their struggles. I have recently written a book exposing myself in my most vunerable form. I included life as a whole over a 17 year period. Struggles seemed unlimited but my strength and lessons learned were priceless. It wasn't until I became an adult that I learn to appreciate all the life lessons. I welcome anyone to questions, comments, and concerns regarding my opinions, thoughts, and ideas. I am a very open individual and I am able to tolerate all topics. Try Me!!!!!