Altering yourself should be at your expense not another. So many people have high standards for what they are looking for but can't be that person in return. You can't want a professional upper-class individual and you carry yourself as a bum on all levels. We are attracted to who we are....mirroring yourself is hard isn't it??? So if you keep dealing with scum you may wanna take a look at YOURSELF. Our energy levels draw certain people to us and the saying the saying opposites attract is very real.
As for setting standards, it's okay but be realistic with your standards and live life with minimal to no expectations of others. People will let you down all the time because they are human and flawed. Sometimes when we set these high expectations they can set our relationships up for failure from the start. A relationship should consist of communication, understanding, respect, compromise, appreciation, and loyalty. Everyone will not always be on the same page at the same time however if you they are working toward these things appreciate the efforts. Trust Real Love Never Dies and anything that is intended WILL BE....
If you don't take the time to learn your mate you can truly never love your mate. You will never fulfill each others deeper wants completely because you don't know who you are dealing with. If you have taken the time to learn your mate expect obstacles, work through them and appreciate each lesson learned through them. The outcomes will hopefully strengthen the relationship.
I truly can relate to this post!! People learn your partner, read them, analyze them, feel them, teach them and touch them, lol. Those items listed above are just a few things that consist of a relationship as there are many others. It is always good to identify yourself before you seek others, you must at least have some form of standards set before identifying them to a potential candidate. You are who you want to be with, so damn true! I am not saying be identical but somewhat like it; as one day you two will be representing each other. Bottom line be true and real to yourself before seeking another individual.
ReplyDeleteI agree. Relationships are mirrors that show us who we are. They are meant to help us learn, grow and overall become better people. All of our relationships including our friendships are truly a reflection of who we are as a person. I had to learn the saying "birds of a feather flock together" has a great deal of truth. Relationships should be chosen with care and it becomes easier to choose when you know who you are and what you want....and like you said, when you are able to be all those things.
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